My broken hallelujah… a name chosen out of desperation and beauty. When I started this blog in March 2010, I was seeking a closer relationship with God, a better understanding of the faith I had chosen to follow and a life virtually free of worry.
What I got was a religious roller coaster that I didn’t really understand and still only partially get.
Going back a couple of years before…
Before starting this blog, I was working for the church that the Grizzly Bear and I had begun to attend together while we were dating. Coming to this church was a weird transition for me because I was still legally married to someone else (go ahead, say it, I know – lecherous whore, right?). We didn’t start our relationship off in the best manner, we made some mistakes, and I still feel guilty, get off my back! Phew… okay. So he had attended this church for the better part of his teenage years and into his young adulthood. This was a part of his family. And here I was, a “baby Christian” with no real guidance and a heap of guilt on my shoulders. I mean, not only did I leave my husband for another man; we were living in sin – gasp – the horror! I knew the moment I walked through that door, the entire congregation could see it, like I was in my underwear with a lit and blinking red A on my forehead. With much gratitude, I was accepted into his circle of friends with great love and everything just seemed to fall right into place.
We went through a pre-marital class, eloped in the middle of it, made things “right” and life just sort of moved. I began working as the Office Administrator (I wouldn’t let them call me the Church Secretary… but that’s what I was) in April 2006. I loved it. The office was small and quiet; I had lots of things to keep me creative while still remaining productive. It was, without a doubt, my dream job. I’d still love that job – run the office, assist a small staff in scheduling their time, plan/host events large and small, plan retreats and trips. Seriously. Dream job.
But then this weird transition happened after we had the Peanut (note: I got to take him to work with me for the first 6 months of his life. Dream. Job.). I was constantly wondering just how these people lived such a glorious life and what it meant to truly “live in the glory” or “pray without ceasing”… Then one day, the Grizzly Bear and his closest friends decided they were looking for something different, less ‘in the Glory’ and more ‘on the ground’. Okay, it wasn’t just “Oh, today I’ll change my mind”; it was a process. The boys kind of banded together to explore other churches and ended up in the Acts 29 Network. I liked their traditional philosophies, but we just didn’t fit that mold, so I had a really hard time connecting with the message completely. Plus, I like to hide, especially when things get hard. I can make any excuse to get out of doing something or to do something else instead. I left the dream job so that we could all go to church together…
And ever since, we have been on this wide and bumpy road… scratch that. We have been on two very separate, very wide, never intersecting and often mountainous roads with little light, no road signs and a dead GPS. Yup. That about sums it up.
No matter what was going on, I ended up making excuses or ‘volunteering’ just to get out of the service. It never failed to convict me… and if it didn’t convict me, I was judging the speaker or the audience. But mostly, I was a convicted, judgmental, miserable mess of a person.
Part of the purpose of this blog was to explore, to learn about this faith called Christianity and to figure out truly what I believe. My first step was to ask myself, very simply, do you believe that Jesus died because God so loved the world? Yes… can I give my friends who want to argue with me or convert me to another faith or lack of faith any tangible proof? No. I can give you philosophical proof on the ‘God so loved the world’ part, but Jesus’ death – that’s just something we’ve each gotta work out within ourselves.
And that’s where it ended. I don’t like calling myself a Christian because it just makes me think of those people picketing soldiers’ funerals, parents who try to ‘fix’ their gay kids and people who empathize with a situation by saying “I’ll pray for you” instead of praying for you right then and there. So here’s where I’m at:
I believe that God loves you and me, regardless of whether you or I have said the sinner’s prayer or ‘accepted Christ’ or done the best in our lives. He loves us. Period. As a parent, I’m realizing that you can love your kids, but ultimately, there’s a point where you can only tell them so much before they have to learn something on their own. I mean, how many times do I have to tell Spider Monkey that the oven is hot? It wasn’t until she defied me and stuck her finger on the inside of a 350° stove that she realized “Oh, mom was right, that IS hot”. Now, when I open the oven, she stands a decent 5 feet away. And that’s how I can relate to God’s love. Even though it just doesn’t scratch the surface.
So what’s the purpose of today’s post?
“A praise to God spoken in a halting or fragmentary manner, as under emotional strain.”
I guess I wanted to delve a little into the name of my blog and even try to work out some new feelings in my heart n’ head. I chose the name because it spoke to me; I found it remarkably beautiful and profound. Broken hallelujah. A ‘Thank You God’ through tears of frustration, a ‘Praise the Lord’ through gritted teeth of anger, or a ‘Jesus’ whispered quietly when words just can’t come. If you’ve ever heard Jeff Buckley’s rendition of the song, take a moment… it’s haunting, beautiful, sensual, breathtaking. And it speaks to the loving, broken and flawed me.
How do I close this thing up (‘cause I could go on all day long…)?
“Letter to Non-Believers” , by Shane Claiborne, co-founder of The Simple Way. A friend shared the link on Facebook and I read straight through… twice. I haven’t done a whole lot of research on this organization, but this letter – wow. A foundation built on Jesus’ life – not what Leviticus says about tattoos, not what that one line says about drunkenness and not what [insert scripture here] is supposedly saying about [insert hot topic political agenda here]. Jesus. Who He hung out with. What He did. How He LOVED. The whole article was everything I’m feeling all rolled up into this awesome little read. Check it out.
Until I figure out where I stand on some issues and get my butt in gear to teach myself some other stuff, I’ll just stand on this one thing: LOVE. Just love each other, friends. It’s okay to be quiet if you have nothing to say. And it’s okay to say something even when it feels weird or embarrassing.
Here, I’ll start: Even if I don’t know you personally, have never met you face to face, or don’t agree with anything you believe, I care about your life and what happens in your life. And you’re pretty… or handsome. No, no. You’re beautiful. There… that wasn’t so hard, was it?
Much love,
Mel